How to Deal With Unprocessed Pain and Trauma to Create Change in Your Life

I recently spoke to a client whose story of sexual trauma I didn’t know. Rape and sexual assault have left very deep scars.
 
Compartmentalizing her trauma to keep from fully feeling the pain, she convinced herself that she didn't need to address the trauma. Although she wasn’t in denial, she never brought it up and had never spoken to anyone about it.
        
Being on a path of spiritual awakening, inner work and healing for over twenty years now, I can say with certainty that life has a way of bringing light to areas in your life that need your love and attention. 
        
If you don’t heal from hurt, you will carry that pain like the current of a river running underground. Although you can’t see it, it's always there.

Unprocessed pain and trauma creates change that was never your choice. Finding the courage to face your past and start a path of healing creates change that YOU DO CHOOSE.
        
Your unprocessed past shows up in ways you are mostly are not aware of…
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• It is in the subtle, yet destructive inner voice that whispers you aren’t good enough
• It hides in the deep shame from believing the lie that you are “dirty” or damaged goods 
• It shows up in the relationships you attract and the unhealthy patterns that emerge within those relationships

My client, knew without a doubt, that it was time to face her past and go bravely into her trauma to finally heal.

Through the inner work and healing she's already done, she now has a foundation of practices and tools she can draw from, my support, and the support of others to navigate the deep waters of processing her trauma. 
        
Her first step in healing was to share her story with people she could trust. She’s used her tools, witnessed her thoughts, watched her emotions, journaled about what came up, allowed herself to feel fully, cry and receive comfort from people who love her. 
        
It's not an easy journey, but continued support and inner work coaching will bring her healing full circle.

Do you have an untold story?

If you a have an untold story that needs to be shared, consider starting that path today. Find someone who you trust to work with, look for a group workshop focused around healing, or tell the people closest to you who have earned the right to hear your story.

To all my fellow survivors out there who have been re-traumatized lately: 

I love you, I honor you, I believe you. 
I know the pain you carry, I carry it too and I am so sorry.
        
Reach out if you want to talk with me (just hit reply). I’m here for you.

We are in this together, you are not alone and if there is one message I want you hear more than anything else... It was NOT your fault.

Remember to take good care of yourself today and these coming weeks, we really need to get better at self-care.

Start today: draw yourself a nice hot bath, listen to a guided meditation (link below), light a candle and spend some time journaling or take a walk out in nature. Do whatever fills your soul and will leave you feeling good about yourself.