I recently spoke to a client whose story of sexual trauma I didn’t know. Rape and sexual assault have left very deep scars. Compartmentalizing her trauma to keep from fully feeling the pain, she convinced herself that she didn't need to address the trauma. Although she wasn’t in denial, she never brought it up and had never spoken to anyone about it. Being on a path of spiritual awakening, inner work and healing for over twenty years now, I can say with certainty that life has a way of bringing light to areas in your life that need your love and attention. If you don’t heal from hurt, you will carry that pain like the current of a river running underground. Although you can’t see it, it's always there. Unprocessed pain and trauma creates change that was never your choice. Finding the courage to face your past and start a path of healing creates change that YOU DO CHOOSE. Your unprocessed past shows up in ways you are mostly are not aware of…
My client, knew without a doubt, that it was time to face her past and go bravely into her trauma to finally heal. Through the inner work and healing she's already done, she now has a foundation of practices and tools she can draw from, my support, and the support of others to navigate the deep waters of processing her trauma. Her first step in healing was to share her story with people she could trust. She’s used her tools, witnessed her thoughts, watched her emotions, journaled about what came up, allowed herself to feel fully, cry and receive comfort from people who love her. It's not an easy journey, but continued support and inner work coaching will bring her healing full circle. Do you have an untold story? If you a have an untold story that needs to be shared, consider starting that path today. Find someone who you trust to work with, look for a group workshop focused around healing, or tell the people closest to you who have earned the right to hear your story. To all my fellow survivors out there who have been re-traumatized lately: I love you, I honor you, I believe you. I know the pain you carry, I carry it too and I am so sorry. Reach out if you want to talk with me (just hit reply). I’m here for you. We are in this together, you are not alone and if there is one message I want you hear more than anything else... It was NOT your fault. Remember to take good care of yourself today and these coming weeks, we really need to get better at self-care. Start today: draw yourself a nice hot bath, listen to a guided meditation (link below), light a candle and spend some time journaling or take a walk out in nature. Do whatever fills your soul and will leave you feeling good about yourself. Can I be honest with you? I've been feeling triggered. Have you been feeling it too? Keep reading for self-care tips to help process all that is up right now. This past week and last weekend, I watched and read as much as I could on both sides of the Ford/Kavanaugh hearing, I listened to both testimonies and read various news outlets comments. I always listen My intention was to listen with an open mind and heart in order to build a bridge of compassion that extends beyond a person's actions. I do this in every relationship in my life and facilitate this process with my clients as an integral tool to help heal past and present struggles in relationships with others. Even with the best of intentions, I ended up feeling triggered. As I processed through my emotions, I wrote this prayer and if it feels right, pray it with me... Today I pray for the healing of humanity… For a mass awakening of our hearts and minds, Forgiveness that heals across all space and time. That we shall treat all living beings with utmost dignity, respect and be kind, No matter who they are, what they look like, what they believe, who they love, or what they've done or been accused of doing, even if they've crossed a line. I pray to always see the whole self of another, and from that place In a loving, grounded and fierce way that leaves no room for misinterpretation Set ground rules of decency and boundaries as to what is and isn't acceptable behavior. I pray for the strength to speak up, Use my voice and listen with an open heart and mind As I seek first to understand rather than be understood. That we find common ground And focus on what unites us more than what separates us. I pray we return to basic principles of decency And eradicate the illusion of the separation our differences portray. That we work together to create a world where are our children are loved By healthy and whole parents To shatter the patterns of abuse in our collective experience. I pray all beings be set free From the darkness of their own minds, From programming they have been subjugated to without knowing Causing them to think, feel, see, act and behave according to unconscious and biased programming. I pray all beings be happy and free. That we collectively awaken Enlightening our mind, Embodying our soul And living empowered lives. May Light and Love be restored on Earth. Amen. If you're survivor of sexual assault please take good care of yourself and know that I hear, feel and know your pain.
Here are few things you can do support yourself... 💛Drink herbal tea, slow down, light a candle and journal 💛Allow your emotions to rise up, let them move 💛Don't push them back down or deny them, let them move through you 💛Get outside and let nature soothe your soul 💛Take long walks and hot baths 💛Let yourself be hugged by someone you trust 💛Talk to a friend, therapist or coach 💛Spend time in meditation to let all the overwhelm go. If you need someone to talk to, reach out, I'm here for you. You are not alone. You are invited to STOP living your life filled with promises of tomorrow and START showing up for yourself TODAY!!!.
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Today is the tomorrow you've been speaking about and you have nothing to lose except for your excuses... In fact, you have everything to gain, including your own self-respect. I know those are strong words but hear me out. How many times have you...
This is NOT (ever) an invitation to pick up the Shame Stick and start beating yourself up because you know that never ends well. This is however an invitation to put yourself and your self-sabotaging ways IN CHECK. This is an invitation to radically and powerfully BREAK THOSE PATTERNS once and for all. To show up like you never have before. To push through your (innate) resistance to change, and develop a strong sense of self-trust, self-respect and self-love. How difficult it is to trust yourself if you don't follow through with the things you said you would do? How do you truly, deeply feel love if you don’t act lovingly to yourself? When you continually break promises to yourself and don’t treat yourself the way you'd like to be treated, how in the world can you expect your relationships to be any different? Fast forward about three and half months from now… It’s New Year’s Eve and you’re looking back at your year, reflecting on what was good, not so good, and evaluating how you did… Now imagine, you spent these last months of 2018 powerfully showing up for yourself ON FIRE breaking old patterns once and for all...and guess what? IT WORKED! You did it! You broke up with that old nasty friend called resistance, shattered old patterns, and upgraded your MINDSET to create healthy, empowering new ways of showing up for yourself and others. YOU DID IT!! Just how proud will you be? You get to say, "THIS WAS THE YEAR I finally broke those chains and set myself free." You didn’t let your old excuses keep you from the very things you knew you needed to feel and be your best. You said that bigger YES to YOU and decided to be ALL IN...no longer half-assing things but ALL IN. So, how do you do it? You DECIDE exactly what you are POWERFULLY COMMITTING to, right here, right now. Remember, no more excuses. You have everything to gain and nothing to lose. Take out your journal and write down what you are committing to. Put it on a piece of paper and tape it to your mirror. Read it every damn day! Decide every single day that TODAY is going to be the day you tap into your Inner Warrior and bust through fear and complacency. Remind yourself daily of your commitment and decide WHY it is so important to you. Write down your why so it fuels you when your old patterns try to sneak their way back in and masterfully try to convince that it is okay to self-destruct, reach for that old vice, numb out, tune out, and avoid doing the things and making the decisions you know would be best for you. COMMENT BELOW and share with me what you're committing to and why. Once your proclaim it, you are putting your stake in the ground and claiming it once and for all. What would this level of self-trust and self-love do for your life and relationships? What would it be worth to feel grounded in your sense of self, confident in how you are showing up for yourself and free from old patterns that have kept you stuck? Are you ready heart-warrior? I want to personally invite you to join me as I guide an amazing group of one-on-one clients through the final months of 2018 to Finish Strong! After a powerful month of coaching in August, I had a burning desire to create a program that held my clients to a higher level of accountability than ever before... I know how good your intentions can be to show up for yourself, but let's be honest... If you aren't paying someone to hold you accountable the likelihood that you will slip back into the old is much higher. And you know just how passionate I am about the Integration & Embodiment phase of transformation = aka. LASTING CHANGE. I have to be honest here. It breaks my heart when I see clients not experiencing the level of transformation I know is possible for them. The work in our sessions is absolutely life-changing as they build bridges of understanding, shift their perspective from fear to love, reframe the past to look back feeling at peace, learn tools for empowered, conscious, loving relationships and get clear on who they are and what they desire most. Inner work works and I know first hand just how (permanently) life changing it is. The catch is... it only kind of works if you only kind of do it. Although massive healing and huge life shifts take place, it takes time, grit and fierce commitment to UPGRADE the subconscious mind and create a new reality for yourself. This happens outside of the sessions. Here's the deal...I am fiercely committed to STANDING FOR YOU until you can powerfully stand for yourself. So, I created (yet another) ridiculously affordable coaching deal to make it super easy for you to SAY YES to YOU. It's TIME. This is your year. This is your call to break the chains, set yourself free, and fall deeply in love with your life! Are you ready? Take the first step. If we've never worked together, CLICK HERE and Book Your Initial Breakthrough Session Today! If we HAVE worked together, you're a previous one-on-one client, attended one of my workshops, or were a member of my Inner Circle, and you are ready to Set Your Soul On Fire, CLICK HERE, read the details if you need to, and buckle up my friend... Life is about to get magical! Something magical happens when you slow down, and consciously connect to the most essential and sacred part of you, your Soul. It happens when you journey from your head to your heart, clear away the limitations of your story, and learn to choose love instead. This is a process of awakening to the potential that resides within. I invite you to pause, dive deep, tune in, and align with that wise part in you that knows exactly what to do, and is always there, lovingly guiding you. The busyness of life makes it difficult to hear that inner wisdom and guidance but all of the answers you seek are within. Learn to ask the right questions, get quiet enough to hear the answers, and uncover the courage and faith to act upon the wisdom you receive. You also need the right tools and guidance to navigate this inner journey. Imagine what life will be like when you allow yourself time to pause, tune in, and get clear on what you need to do and be to live your greatest potential. How would it feel to cultivate a strong foundation as you learn to design your life to be centered around soulful self-care, passion and purpose? What opportunities might open to you? What might be different? Are you ready to take the journey from your head to your heart, and set your Soul on Fire? I've been called to act as a personal and spiritual guide to those who are ready to take their power back, show up authentically, live their truth, set healthy boundaries, and love with their whole heart. I’m here to guide you to breakthrough and break-free from the limitations of your past and help you get unstuck so you can move forward empowered and free. I would love to serve as your Spiritual Guide. But first, if we've never worked together, I'd like the the opportunity to get to know you... Click Here to Book an Initial Breakthrough Session Although there is a fee for this 90-minute session, it is laser focused and designed for you to experience a significant breakthrough in your life right now! During our time together, you will...
I’ll help you focus on what truly matters so you can get the most out of this one life. Get results right away and leave your session with greater clarity on how to move forward empowered and inspired. Your big breakthrough is just one click away! It would be my deepest honor to guide through your own healing and transformation. Once you awaken and show up for the real work, life will never be the same. If you would like my help and support to heal and transform your story, Click Here to Book an Initial Breakthrough Session and access the deep inner-work you need to transform your life. August has been a whirlwind of a month full of energy, excitement and healing!
THIS IS YOUR SIGN! This is the nudge, the gentle reminder, that this is your time to feel better, be better, and do better! There is something to be said about the process of awakening and transformation. Once you become aware of the patterns wrecking havoc in your life you can no longer ignore or avoid the path of awakening. It begins to beckon you louder and louder, and what once a subtle nudge becomes raging thunder. You either wait until you have enough information and choose this path to freedom, or you wait until you hurt so bad you have no choice. Everyone's wake up call looks different. Our paths are all as unique as we are, but there are some things that we must all do to truly be free. One of them is setting yourself free from the pain of your past so that new doors of opportunity can be opened. Along the journey, you deepen your understanding of self, and take an honest, humble look at the workings of your own mind, thoughts, and belief systems. You become aware of your core programming, how and why it was formed, the blessings and curses of that programming and how to rewrite it to serve your higher good. The process of unraveling and reprogramming is one of the most courageous and empowering journeys of your life. You become an active participant in powerfully creating the life you love, taking full responsibility for your reality and wellbeing.
There is no magic pill or fast track on this path except your desire, willingness and commitment to show up fully, stay engaged and allow yourself to be supported and mentored through the process. Are you ready break the chains and finally set yourself free? This is your call to fall deeply in love with life!
Take the first step. CLICK HERE and Book Your Session Today! If you know me well, you know that I love to keep it real. I was recently a guest on Real Souls with Peggy Bennet, a podcast that discusses everything from dating and relationships to manifesting the life that you desire. I had the opportunity to share a lot about my own story to inspire you and help ignite transformation in your own life. The interview is LIVE on iTunes! CLICK HERE TO HEAR MY STORY You see, each of us has an initial story. At some point, you made a decision about yourselves and who you are and what you are worthy of. At the very moment that decision was made, life began to unfold based on your early decision making process and/or programing. For me, from a very young age, I wanted so badly to fit in. I wanted to be liked, to know my place in the world. I was searching...can you relate? I was young when I experienced my spiritual awakening, 18 years old to be exact. It was a time in my life where nothing seemed to be going right for me. Click the link below to discover what events in my life led me to this path, and how I tuned in and allowed myself to be intuitively guided along my spiritual journey. But first, here are a few questions to ponder... ✨ What is your initial story and is it still playing out? ✨ Can you identify themes in your life that keep popping up? ✨ What did you learn about yourself when you were young? ✨ What did you learning about what is and isn't possible for you in life and love? ✨ What were your examples of love, including self-love like? ✨ If you have a high-level of self-awareness around what shaped you, have you been able to create a new story? CLICK HERE TO HEAR MY STORY The deep impact of our initial stories can either hinder us from having the life we truly want or radically empower us if do the inner work required to untangle and undo the old programming and create a new empowered story instead. We don't always get to choose what happens in life, we do get to choose what we make of it. Leading people like you into this powerful transformative processes is what I am here to do. It is what I was born to do, trained to do, and what my life story has prepared me for. It would be my deepest honor to guide through your own healing and transformation. Once you awaken and show up for the real work, life will never be the same. If you would like my help and support to heal and transform your story, I’ve opened up my calendar for the entire month of August to give you access to the deep inner-work you need to transform your life. There are very limited spots still open, be sure to book right away. This is is an incredible opportunity at the rate of $111.00! CLICK HERE TO BOOK YOUR SUMMER SESSION Remember, you can also share this link with friends and family who need support. Spread the love and keep growing. It's what this life is all about. Last week, I asked you a few powerful questions to help you grow from your experiences...How did it feel to answer them?
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I asked these questions to encourage you to take a leap of faith. No matter what happens, use it as fuel for your soul’s growth, healing and expression. Taking risks into the unknown and letting Spirit lead the way isn’t always easy and it doesn’t mean things work out the way you think they will (in fact, they often don’t and that is a part of the magic). Whenever I’ve followed my intuition and allowed myself to be guided, I have had the most incredible experiences and grown more than I could possibly imagine. Do you remember the old 80’s slogan “No pain, no gain”? It is the concept that you have to push yourself to the point of pain because that is where growth happens, muscles grow and your body becomes stronger. When you say yes to a path of personal growth it can feel a little scary because you're diving into the unknown, it's that sweet spot between anxiety and excitement. Inner work requires you getting real with yourself and the path itself can be messy as you navigate these new waters, trying out your new tools, stumbling, falling and getting back up again. It is in the discomfort of pushing through your resistance to change that growth happens. All of your experiences present unique opportunities for three main reasons: ✨ Soul Growth ✨ Healing ✨ Expression No matter what life brings, take a moment to pause, breathe deeply and tune into your heart. Ask yourself the powerful questions above...Inquire within. Your inner wisdom will reveal the answers you seek. The more heartfelt your intention, the more clarity, wisdom and growth you will experience. If you would like my help and support to gain the clarity you need to take your leap of faith, I’ve opened up my calendar for the entire month of August to give you access to the deep inner-work you need to transform your life. This is an incredible opportunity at the rate of $111.00 CLICK HERE TO BOOK YOUR SUMMER SESSION Keep growing. It's what this life is all about. The journey of awakening from your head to your heart, is the most rewarding journey of a lifetime. If you haven't already, give yourself this gift and invest in living this precious life from a place of greater joy, authenticity, purpose, meaning and connection. Go deep within and uncover the gold that is waiting to be found in the story of your life. Take your power back. Choose wisely, live fully, embrace, heal, integrate, transform, and most importantly, LOVE ❤️. Spring is a great reminder to focus on the seeds you are planting. Bring light to your thoughts and actions because you get to create your destiny from this day forward with every choice you make. Here are a few questions to guide your choices…
If you aren't happy with the results you are getting you must learn to ask better questions. This is a key element to any personal transformation, and one of the core tools I teach my clients. The ability to start asking yourself powerful questions is a huge turning point.
Questions empower you to get curious, dig deeper and focus on what you want, instead of what you don't. I feel so fortunate to have this skill as a default in my thinking, but it wasn't always that way. I had to invest in the right mentors and stay committed to this path to discover true freedom. If you are ready to rise up in your life, own your power, and discover love, then I invite you to grab one of my 90-Minute Breakthrough Sessions. Intend to become more aware and get the support and accountability you need to create new lasting habits, heal what's in the way of love, and start living a powerful life full of passion and purpose. Invest in you, say yes to you, and start living life intentionally from your whole heart. No more holding back. Life is much more beautiful when you are awake, aware, and aligned. Believing in you, Heather Fantin Spiritual Breakthrough Coach Enlighten Your Mind - Embody Your Soul - Empower Your Life If You Can't Look Back and Tell Your Story From an Empowered Place, Your Work is Not Yet Done.4/18/2018 I always say, "if you can't look back and tell the story (of your past) from an empowered place, your work is not yet done.”
Awareness, curiosity, reflection, silence and faith are all components of healing your story. In order to heal, you must first become aware of the stories you tell yourself. With curiosity and fascination, begin the process of self-reflection and inquiry by taking time for moments of silence and stillness. This process creates space to make sense of your experiences because there is always an opportunity in every single experience. Faith comes in knowing that everything is happening for you, not to you. There is always a gift waiting for you if you choose to receive it. The gift is further awakening, evolution and wholeness. The journey of inner-discovery, self-awareness and awakening leads you on a path to heal your stories and create a future aligned with your deepest truths and greatest potential. When you commit to uncover the gift in your experiences, you shift and transform, heal and evolve, and learn to look back from empowered place, no longer limited by the stories of your past or caught up in the suffering of what was. You experience life moving forward more happy, and whole. Your most beautiful and sacred purpose is to return to love as you learn to heal, embrace and integrate all aspects of yourself. You have a unique path and purpose, which once awakened and aligned with your core you will discover the beauty and magic life has to offer. Begin your journey today. It will be the most rewarding journey of your life! The great news is, you don’t have to do this work alone! Find a guide you can trust, who has walked this path before you, knows the way, and can keep you on track with eyes of loving truth to guide you back to you. I will be guiding an amazing group of people as they Awaken to Love and discover how to live from a place of awareness and empowerment. Are you available April 28, 2018? Click Here to reserve your spot today and get ready to live life fully, love fully and fully enjoy the life you were meant to have! {Only one more week to register!} Love & Light, Heather Fantin Spiritual Breakthrough Coach Enlighten Your Mind - Embody Your Soul - Empower Your Life With the full moon approaching (March 31) and Mercury back in retrograde, you may be feeling some wonky energy around you. It’s okay…we’re all feeling it!
Full moons tend to illuminate our lives, helping us clearly see our problem areas. Use the energy of the moon to look within. Notice what’s happening in your relationships, not only with others, but with yourself as well. Are there aspects of your relationships where transference (when you apply a negative trait you experienced earlier in life to someone else currently in your life) may be blocking your view of what’s really going on? What needs to shift? As you become more aware, step into the role of “observer” and to the best of your ability, develop objectivity, be brave, and take action to clean things up. Most importantly, don’t forget about yourself! Take time to give yourself attention, love and compassion. Drop in, tune into your needs and be there for yourself. Taking care of yourself can be hard work. It’s not just about buying yourself flowers or treating yourself to a pedicure (though those things are beautiful). Beyond that, it involves devotion to the parts of yourself that you may not like, so that you can move forward braver and more resilient than ever. It’s about fully loving yourself for all that you are, shadows included. Take a good hard look at any relationship imbalances, any area in your life where you might be resisting partnership and symbiosis and create an opportunity to get real and get practical about bringing things back to balance. Grab your journal and take some time to reflect to support you through this process. Below are a few questions that may help... FULL MOON JOURNAL PROMPTS Take a deep breath, drop into your heart and take an honest inventory of what is and isn't working in your life...Remember, the full moon is symbolic of a chapter coming to a close so it's the perfect time to release and shed that which no longer serves you. ✨What areas of your life most need your love and attention? ✨What aspects of your relationships are challenging for you? ✨What limiting beliefs are holding you back? ✨What habits do have that are negatively impacting your life? ✨Where are you harboring resentment and to whom? ✨What old story keeps repeating in your life? Once you've taken the time to get honest, take inventory and see the areas of your life that need your love, it is time to decide whether or not you are ready to release them. If you are, take out your journal once again and write: ✨I now release... Write down all of the things you are ready to let go of and surrender. Whenever I do this process I envision myself handing over these old weights and releasing them from my body, taking my hands and reaching upward to hand them over to a power and presence far greater than myself. This week, focus on releasing... next week you can lift back up and decide what you want to replace it with. As you continue to journey deep within to heal, embrace, integrate and evolve you WILL return to love. Your relationships will transform, including the one with yourself. You are not alone. I'm here to support you on your journey to live life with your whole heart. Let's schedule a Breakthrough Session today! |