There is saying, "where attention goes, energy flows" meaning, wherever you place your attention is where your energy goes and therefore, grows.
A question I often ask my clients is, "what is your point of focus?"
If you are looking for or focused on what isn't right, you’re going to find more things that aren't right. When you focus on what is working, you find more things that are working.
This is especially important to remember in relationships.
Whatever you believe, you are right and you will find evidence to back up those beliefs!
If you believe you are telling yourself that your partner isn't showing up for you, you will find evidence to back it up.
Attention + energy = focus = your experience of reality.
What might happen if you shift your focus to how they are showing up and what they are doing instead? What might the ripple of that be (it is all goodness, I promise)?
Imagine for a moment all of the blessings in your life...
✨ Think only about what is good and right.
✨ Find things to appreciate.
✨ Let your heart be filled with happy thoughts.
Take a deep breath and breathe those blessings into your heart. Allow yourself to feel just how lucky you are to be alive today. To be living and breathing one more day...
If you focus on the abundance and blessings you already have, you will experience more abundance and blessings.
Your energy is a big magnet attracting like energy. What you focus on and think about is what you are attracting.
Your attention is your greatest currency, so be mindful of the energy you are investing in.
Sending you all my love,
Spiritual Breakthrough Coach
Enlighten Your Mind - Embody Your Soul - Empower Your Life
PS...It's true, when I count my blessings, I count you twice 😘
Happy Thanksgiving!! (and full moon!)
If you've been following me for a while you probably know Thanksgiving is my favorite holiday. I love how the focus is preparing a delicious family meal and coming together in gratitude and appreciation for each other and life in general.
On that note, I wanted to share just how grateful I am that you are here. I am truly, deeply grateful, thank you!
And I don't mean that in a cheesy, cliche way, it really does mean the world to me that you are a part of this community. It's because of you that I keep going and feel encouraged to continue.
It fills my heart with joy that you are on this path of awakening and inner work with me. I truly believe that this is the most important work we can all be doing both individually and collectively to make this world a better place... so once again, thank YOU!
Just in case you didn't know, today is also a FULL MOON during mercury retrograde... double whammy!
Full moon energy often equals heightened emotions, drama, and a bit of chaos where the hidden aspects of your life that aren't working are brought to light. Add mercury retrograde into the mix and you could potentially be dealing with some major crazy at the dinner table!
Check it out:
"Mercury retrograde in Sagittarius can make everyone doubly tactless. With this hotheaded energy flying around, choose your words carefully. Sagittarius is prone to overreact and fly off the handle, and when everyone feels that way, there can be a ton of drama firing off from all directions. Even the most polite, soft-spoken person might get caught in the crossfire of the heated arguments sure to pop off during this particularly high-energy retrograde.
This final retrograde of 2018 (and the energy of Mercury in Sagittarius in general) helps you speak your truth and defend your beliefs unapologetically—even if it means ending relationships and cutting off loose ends in the process. This has been a year of transformation and tons of tough changes. The clutter has been cleared out, though, and after this final speed bump ends on December 6, it’s clear skies ahead in 2019!" - (taken from jakesastrology)
So what can you when the shit hits the fan??
Soul Care Rx
What you focus on you experience more of so immediately shift your focus to something good... look around you, practice gratitude. What can you appreciate about this moment? What you appreciate, appreciates.
Can you even eventually find humor in the chaos?
When I take a step back and witness the crazy, instead of engage with the crazy, and I shift my perspective to see how everyone is just reacting out of their own fears and insecurities, I can have greater compassion AND find the humor in the insanity.
One last thought before you finish up your holiday preparations.
What if this were your last meal on earth? How would you want to show up for yourself and for others? What would you want them to know? I know that's a heavy question but it can shift your focus fast and drop you back into what matters most.
As we move into the holidays, become more aware as things tend to resurface that need to be cleared, so that you can move through the season with grace and ease.
You don’t want to drag unhealthy situations, relationships or unresolved trauma into the future so always remain grateful when the opportunity arises to shine the light on the darkness and clear, clear, clear!
This will prepare you to move forward lighter and brighter. As your light shines, you will become a beacon for others to find their way out of the darkness and raise your vibration with each breath you take!
Stress, overwhelm, and pressure around the holiday season can be challenging no matter how long you are on the journey of self-discovery and awakening. There will always be another layer to move through, which is a part of the beauty of this life!
In times like these it's important to be really gentle with yourself, rest more, reflect more, laugh more and play more.
If you need a little support to keep your Zen during the holidays use the simple three step method below...
It only takes is split second to choose a different response to any situation and change the outcome of your relationships and the quality of your life...
Set an intention to use this method and keep your cool during the holiday season!
STEP #1: STOP – stop yourself before you open your mouth and take a deep breath
STEP #2: DROP (IN) – close your eyes, connect to your heart
STEP #3: LISTEN – tune into how you would really like to respond, ask yourself if your response is loving
The next time you're about to react, try this out and see what happens. I’d love to find out how you were able to shift your reaction to a more heartfelt response!
What grounds you in your center? At this time of year, practices that ground you in your center are more important than ever.
This time of year tends to bring with it a rollercoaster of emotion including joy, connection, gratitude, excitement, frustration, sadness, disappointment and grief.
There are plenty of opportunities to get knocked off your center and sucked into the drama, chaos and intensity of diverse opinions and expectations. (check out next week's how to “bless the messenger” and selfishly use these juicy exchanges as opportunities for your own growth, healing and evolution!)
The more grounded, centered and at peace you are, the more loving, kind and compassionate you can be — both toward yourself and others. And who doesn’t want to be seen as the Zen Master in their family?
With all of the stress, overwhelm, and pressure around the holiday season, practices that ground you deeply are key to keeping the peace and staying with you. Let me repeat that to emphasize the importance of what I just said…
These practices are key to keeping the peace and STAYING WITH YOU.
If you ever find yourself in the role of the Fixer, Caretaker, Mediator, Rescuer, Victim or Martyr, this grounding and boundary work is even more important! 🙋🏼♀️
Here is a simple yet powerful question to ask if you find yourself rushing to the rescue ... Whose business am I in? My own, yours or God’s? — most likely, it’s not “yours” to solve so stay with you!
The more grounded you are, the less likely you are to get triggered by life.
One of my first birthdays after I moved back to the United States I had dinner with a new group of friends, my now husband and my sister. At some point they shared what they appreciate about and see in me (best birthday gift EVER for this words of affirmation lady!).
Many shared how much they loved being around my calming, grounded energy… that being around me helped them breathe a little deeper.
My sister piped up and declared “she wasn’t always like this!”. We both laughed and then with tears in her eyes she said how inspiring I was to her as she had witnessed firsthand the power of inner work and of practices that ground you in your center.
I was no longer that fiery, easily triggered young woman, I was grounded in my sense of self and rooted so deeply that it would take a hurricane to knock me down.Things don’t upset me like they used to. I don’t take things personally like I used to and if I do, I know how to get myself back to a place of peace.
I want this for you too… I want you be stuck in traffic and be at peace, to deal with your politically incorrect family member with love, to not get triggered by the changes in your family, the unmet expectations you have or those placed upon you.
I want you to realize there is more to life then the little triggers, annoyances or even big upsets and when you invest in yourself, making self-care a priority and get grounded deeply, there isn’t much that can throw you off.
If I find myself in a funk and feeling “off”, I know I alone have the power to shift it and always keep in mind, inner peace is just a thought/choice away.
Here are a few suggestions to help you get and stay grounded in your center…
When I move my physical body stuck energy flows, which helps me to raise up out of the funk. I also really benefit from hot packs, baths, high vibrational foods, cuddling, quiet time, meditation, and journaling.
How do you move through tough times or handle difficult situations or people? What keeps you centered when you are feeling off? What can you do today to feel more centered and at peace? Hit reply and let me know!
Remember to take care of yourself.
Self-care is a sacred act, a gift you give yourself that says, “Yes, I matter.”
Always remember, if you do not fill your cup first, what you give is counterproductive to you and the person receiving. Give from a full cup!
Self-care is NOT SELFISH.
Be the person who LEADS BY EXAMPLE in your family. Make yourself and your wellbeing a priority this holiday season.
Use the practices above to reconnect to your center, and move through this season with love, ease, and grace. If you do, I promise, you will be less likely to be stressed out, triggered or overwhelmed.
I want to hear from you... what do you struggle with during this season and what could you use some extra guidance or support around in general? If you could learn ANYTHING from ME, what would it be? Leave a comment and let me know!
Sending you all my love & high vibes to lift you up,
Spiritual Breakthrough Coach
Enlighten Your Mind - Embody Your Soul - Empower Your Life
I do not take the freedom I have here in America lightly or for granted. I am extremely blessed and fortunate to have been born and raised here, and to live here today.
I deeply honor all those who have come before me, and have dedicated their lives to the ideals, and vision of living in a free nation.
God knows we have a lot to learn. We are not free from fault, dysfunction, corruption or darkness.
At this important juncture, we are being called to rise up above any sense of separation, any suffering we create or project, and elevate our hearts and minds to even higher ideals that are inclusive, based in love for all beings, and for this precious planet we get to call home.
You must seek to heal any sense of separation you feel in your heart or mind, whenever you look at a fellow brother or sister and see them as different.
Each of us is unique and special and add to the tapestry that is this beautiful life.
When it comes down to it, we want the same things; to feel love, to know that we are worthy of love, to be seen, heard, and acknowledged, and to feel safe.
To experience true freedom, you must be willing to set yourself free from the captivity of your own mind. It is time to awaken and heal, to return to love. Forgive, connect, and rise up…
We are one race and all deserve to be heard, seen, and loved, no matter how distorted or fearful our world may seem.
Real change begins with you.
The deep soul work that I take my clients through not only creates a new paradigm in their own lives, but has a ripple effect to the world around them, which allows their children to live free from the patterns, fears, and limitations in their own lives.
Click Here to Begin the Change Within
The greatest gift you can give this world is a healthier, happier, more loving version of you.
Sending you all my love,
Spiritual Breakthrough Coach
Enlighten Your Mind - Embody Your Soul - Empower Your Life
It is amazing how small the world gets, especially when you travel outside of your normal environment.
Last week, I arrived home from spending two weeks in Hong Kong, and one thing I love about being in different countries is meeting people from so many backgrounds.
We always find a common thread that unites us.
My circle of global friends (and new clients) has now expanded to Hong Kong and it fills my heart.
I was there spending time with and loving on one of my dear girlfriends who is undergoing treatment for stage 4 cancer. As emotional as it is, she is hopeful and remaining positive, as am I.
My friend wanted me to be there for her last two weeks of treatment before returning back to Thailand (where she and I used to be neighbors and she ran a wedding planning business) and then back home to New Zealand to be with her family.
She used to live in Hong Kong and has found out through her illness just how many people love and appreciate her. We had plans to meet up with her innermost circle of friends over the two weeks so she could say goodbye before leaving and update them with her situation.
When you live a soul aligned life, the synchronicities and divine appointments that just happen are absolutely magical.
You meet EXACTLY the right people, at the right time and the right place. Life brings you together. It's purposeful and you feel it.
One afternoon, my girlfriend and I ended up spontaneously at her friends house for dinner. A random group of people ended up spending a very long evening together, laughing, deeply connecting and sharing about what is real and what matters.
I ended up grabbing lunch one day and sat at a table with a sweet young woman who had recently moved from Kuala Lumpur. She ended up sharing with me the story of her sisters death a few years back to cancer. It was a healing conversation for both of us.
During the last week, I reconnected with someone who I met 10 years ago when I was opening an Aman Spa in London. We just happened to be in Hong Kong at the EXACT same time. I felt a connection with her then and still do. I am being guided to mentor her once again as a big sister.
These are just a few of the examples of divine synchronicity that happened during my trip... all the way up to a 10 hour delay on my flight home and spending the majority of that time connecting with another Heather who is totally a part of my tribe.
Throughout these various encounters and also spending time with my friend, one of the things that stood out was just how important it is to be present, I mean really present with those around you.
When you allow yourself to be fully present with and honoring of another human being on their journey, it is an incredible gift.
So here is my suggestion because I know we all need to be reminded occasionally... The next time you're with friends or family stop and check in with yourself every once in a while and reflect...
"Am I really present? Or, am I distracted by my to-do list or the vortex that is my phone?"
If you are, that's okay. Put your phone down, look up, look around you and get present again.
Real, heartfelt, meaningful connection is what we all crave and that happens face-to-face. ❤
Also, take some time to check in with yourself about living a soul-aligned life...
The more you live from your core; grounded, connected, awakened, and aligned with higher spiritual principles, the more magical life becomes.
If you've been in my community for a while, you probably know I believe that everything in life is happening FOR you and NOT to you.
Let's take it a step further...
No matter what happens (or why), YOU are the MEANING MAKER of your life.
YOU get to choose what you make of whatever arises, so why not turn it into something good?
These ideas can be challenging to integrate when life is coming at you. This is the very reason why my clients and I do the inner-work. Because once you accept these ideas, life as you know it will completely change.
Below are a few powerful inner-work questions that I use to work through difficult situations, when either external or internal challenges arise.
Use these questions to shift to a place of empowerment, no matter what is going on.
If you really want to see a profound shift, take out your journal, write about them, and evaluate your thoughts. Take action on what you discover.
Before you begin...
💖 Take a deep breath
💖 Drop In
What are you thinking?
Listen to your heart.
Tune in to the whispers of your soul
✨QUESTIONS FOR SOUL GROWTH
- What am I being called to learn? ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
- What is my higher spiritual lesson? ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
- What qualities am I being called to cultivate? ⠀
✨QUESTIONS FOR SOUL HEALING
- What is really going on deeper down? ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
- What (unhealed) wound/aspect of myself is getting triggered by this situation?
- When have I felt the same or similar feelings? ⠀⠀
- What am I most afraid of?
✨QUESTIONS FOR SOUL EXPRESSION & EVOLUTION
- What wants to be expressed through me?
- How does my soul want to grow from this? ⠀⠀⠀
- How can I turn this into something good?
When you take time to pause, tune in, and listen, you will discover a new richness to life. You become the Alchemist, able to transform the most difficult situation into something better. You grow from everything that comes, even if your growth is to simply learn to be kind and give yourself some grace.
I recently spoke to a client whose story of sexual trauma I didn’t know. Rape and sexual assault have left very deep scars.
Compartmentalizing her trauma to keep from fully feeling the pain, she convinced herself that she didn't need to address the trauma. Although she wasn’t in denial, she never brought it up and had never spoken to anyone about it.
Being on a path of spiritual awakening, inner work and healing for over twenty years now, I can say with certainty that life has a way of bringing light to areas in your life that need your love and attention.
If you don’t heal from hurt, you will carry that pain like the current of a river running underground. Although you can’t see it, it's always there.
Unprocessed pain and trauma creates change that was never your choice. Finding the courage to face your past and start a path of healing creates change that YOU DO CHOOSE.
Your unprocessed past shows up in ways you are mostly are not aware of…
My client, knew without a doubt, that it was time to face her past and go bravely into her trauma to finally heal.
Through the inner work and healing she's already done, she now has a foundation of practices and tools she can draw from, my support, and the support of others to navigate the deep waters of processing her trauma.
Her first step in healing was to share her story with people she could trust. She’s used her tools, witnessed her thoughts, watched her emotions, journaled about what came up, allowed herself to feel fully, cry and receive comfort from people who love her.
It's not an easy journey, but continued support and inner work coaching will bring her healing full circle.
Do you have an untold story?
If you a have an untold story that needs to be shared, consider starting that path today. Find someone who you trust to work with, look for a group workshop focused around healing, or tell the people closest to you who have earned the right to hear your story.
To all my fellow survivors out there who have been re-traumatized lately:
I love you, I honor you, I believe you.
I know the pain you carry, I carry it too and I am so sorry.
Reach out if you want to talk with me (just hit reply). I’m here for you.
We are in this together, you are not alone and if there is one message I want you hear more than anything else... It was NOT your fault.
Remember to take good care of yourself today and these coming weeks, we really need to get better at self-care.
Start today: draw yourself a nice hot bath, listen to a guided meditation (link below), light a candle and spend some time journaling or take a walk out in nature. Do whatever fills your soul and will leave you feeling good about yourself.
Can I be honest with you?
I've been feeling triggered. Have you been feeling it too? Keep reading for self-care tips to help process all that is up right now.
This past week and last weekend, I watched and read as much as I could on both sides of the Ford/Kavanaugh hearing, I listened to both testimonies and read various news outlets comments. I always listen
My intention was to listen with an open mind and heart in order to build a bridge of compassion that extends beyond a person's actions.
I do this in every relationship in my life and facilitate this process with my clients as an integral tool to help heal past and present struggles in relationships with others.
Even with the best of intentions, I ended up feeling triggered. As I processed through my emotions, I wrote this prayer and if it feels right, pray it with me...
Today I pray for the healing of humanity…
For a mass awakening of our hearts and minds,
Forgiveness that heals across all space and time.
That we shall treat all living beings with utmost dignity, respect and be kind,
No matter who they are, what they look like, what they believe, who they love, or what they've done or been accused of doing, even if they've crossed a line.
I pray to always see the whole self of another, and from that place
In a loving, grounded and fierce way that leaves no room for misinterpretation
Set ground rules of decency and boundaries as to what is and isn't acceptable behavior.
I pray for the strength to speak up,
Use my voice and listen with an open heart and mind
As I seek first to understand rather than be understood.
That we find common ground
And focus on what unites us more than what separates us.
I pray we return to basic principles of decency
And eradicate the illusion of the separation our differences portray.
That we work together to create a world where are our children are loved
By healthy and whole parents
To shatter the patterns of abuse in our collective experience.
I pray all beings be set free
From the darkness of their own minds,
From programming they have been subjugated to without knowing
Causing them to think, feel, see, act and behave according to unconscious
and biased programming.
I pray all beings be happy and free.
That we collectively awaken
Enlightening our mind,
Embodying our soul
And living empowered lives.
May Light and Love be restored on Earth.
If you're survivor of sexual assault please take good care of yourself and know that I hear, feel and know your pain.
Here are few things you can do support yourself...
💛Drink herbal tea, slow down, light a candle and journal
💛Allow your emotions to rise up, let them move
💛Don't push them back down or deny them, let them move through you
💛Get outside and let nature soothe your soul
💛Take long walks and hot baths
💛Let yourself be hugged by someone you trust
💛Talk to a friend, therapist or coach
💛Spend time in meditation to let all the overwhelm go.
If you need someone to talk to, reach out, I'm here for you. You are not alone.
You are invited to STOP living your life filled with promises of tomorrow and START showing up for yourself TODAY!!!.
What if you…
Today is the tomorrow you've been speaking about and you have nothing to lose except for your excuses...
In fact, you have everything to gain, including your own self-respect.
I know those are strong words but hear me out.
How many times have you...
This is NOT (ever) an invitation to pick up the Shame Stick and start beating yourself up because you know that never ends well.
This is however an invitation to put yourself and your self-sabotaging ways IN CHECK.
This is an invitation to radically and powerfully BREAK THOSE PATTERNS once and for all.
To show up like you never have before. To push through your (innate) resistance to change, and develop a strong sense of self-trust, self-respect and self-love.
How difficult it is to trust yourself if you don't follow through with the things you said you would do? How do you truly, deeply feel love if you don’t act lovingly to yourself?
When you continually break promises to yourself and don’t treat yourself the way you'd like to be treated, how in the world can you expect your relationships to be any different?
Fast forward about three and half months from now…
It’s New Year’s Eve and you’re looking back at your year, reflecting on what was good, not so good, and evaluating how you did…
Now imagine, you spent these last months of 2018 powerfully showing up for yourself ON FIRE breaking old patterns once and for all...and guess what? IT WORKED! You did it!
You broke up with that old nasty friend called resistance, shattered old patterns, and upgraded your MINDSET to create healthy, empowering new ways of showing up for yourself and others.
YOU DID IT!!
Just how proud will you be?
You get to say, "THIS WAS THE YEAR I finally broke those chains and set myself free."
You didn’t let your old excuses keep you from the very things you knew you needed to feel and be your best. You said that bigger YES to YOU and decided to be ALL IN...no longer half-assing things but ALL IN.
So, how do you do it?
You DECIDE exactly what you are POWERFULLY COMMITTING to, right here, right now. Remember, no more excuses. You have everything to gain and nothing to lose.
Take out your journal and write down what you are committing to. Put it on a piece of paper and tape it to your mirror. Read it every damn day!
Decide every single day that TODAY is going to be the day you tap into your Inner Warrior and bust through fear and complacency.
Remind yourself daily of your commitment and decide WHY it is so important to you. Write down your why so it fuels you when your old patterns try to sneak their way back in and masterfully try to convince that it is okay to self-destruct, reach for that old vice, numb out, tune out, and avoid doing the things and making the decisions you know would be best for you.
COMMENT BELOW and share with me what you're committing to and why. Once your proclaim it, you are putting your stake in the ground and claiming it once and for all.
What would this level of self-trust and self-love do for your life and relationships?
What would it be worth to feel grounded in your sense of self, confident in how you are showing up for yourself and free from old patterns that have kept you stuck?
Are you ready heart-warrior?
I want to personally invite you to join me as I guide an amazing group of one-on-one clients through the final months of 2018 to Finish Strong!
After a powerful month of coaching in August, I had a burning desire to create a program that held my clients to a higher level of accountability than ever before...
I know how good your intentions can be to show up for yourself, but let's be honest...
If you aren't paying someone to hold you accountable the likelihood that you will slip back into the old is much higher.
And you know just how passionate I am about the Integration & Embodiment phase of transformation = aka. LASTING CHANGE.
I have to be honest here. It breaks my heart when I see clients not experiencing the level of transformation I know is possible for them. The work in our sessions is absolutely life-changing as they build bridges of understanding, shift their perspective from fear to love, reframe the past to look back feeling at peace, learn tools for empowered, conscious, loving relationships and get clear on who they are and what they desire most.
Inner work works and I know first hand just how (permanently) life changing it is.
The catch is... it only kind of works if you only kind of do it.
Although massive healing and huge life shifts take place, it takes time, grit and fierce commitment to UPGRADE the subconscious mind and create a new reality for yourself. This happens outside of the sessions.
Here's the deal...I am fiercely committed to STANDING FOR YOU until you can powerfully stand for yourself. So, I created (yet another) ridiculously affordable coaching deal to make it super easy for you to SAY YES to YOU.
It's TIME. This is your year. This is your call to break the chains, set yourself free, and fall deeply in love with your life!
Are you ready?
Take the first step. If we've never worked together, CLICK HERE and Book Your Initial Breakthrough Session Today!
If we HAVE worked together, you're a previous one-on-one client, attended one of my workshops, or were a member of my Inner Circle, and you are ready to Set Your Soul On Fire, CLICK HERE, read the details if you need to, and buckle up my friend...
Life is about to get magical!